A calm, consistent way to respond to tantrums.
Calm Timer gives parents a pre-agreed green/amber/red countdown so everyone knows what happens next. Running the timer removes emotion and negotiation from the outburst so the plan speaks for itself.
Referee mode snapshot
Stay consistent with a predictable, pre-agreed countdown.
- Green: Start with calm options.
- Amber: Offer a neutral reminder.
- Red: Follow through with the plan.
Agree on the plan
Set green, amber, and red timers with calm, neutral next steps.
Run the timer
Use Referee Mode to stay consistent and reduce negotiation.
Reinforce calm
Celebrate quick calm and repair after harder moments.
Why it works
Predictability
Children know what happens next because the timer is pre-agreed.
Calm authority
Parents stay steady, neutral, and supportive without escalating.
Less negotiation
The timer speaks for you, so you do not need to bargain.
Safety note
Calm Timer is not medical advice. If your child’s behavior includes harm to self or others, or you are concerned about persistent severe challenges, consult a qualified professional.